Speak a sweet word, for it costs you nothing

my mom told me a story on my way to a hostel( beginning of new semester, .. end of winter vacation....ah!!)

Once upon a time , a very poor and helpless man went up to a baniya- a grocer - most humbly said to him,

" Seth ji, for several days i have had nothing to eat . Be kind to me . This crumb of dry bread i have some how got. Will you kindly give me a little gur-sugar candy - so that i take my bread with it and appease my hunger?"

The baniya suddenly flared up and spoke sharply,

" begone! Otherwise , i will beat you."

The poor man didn't say anything. He observed that this man was the one to give him a beating instead of gur......

So, he calmly replied " what is the matter, my friend?

why are you angry? if you don't like, don't give me gur but at least be sweet like gur. You have not to spend money on a sweet word." The baniya was put to shame.

We thus learn that everyone should be careful what he says it. One should not be harsh- tongued. If we can't serve anyone by means of our body or money, we should at least talk sweetly and that does not entail any expenses, or loss of anything of our own, nor harms us thereby.

BUT!!!! we do not know what the situtaion will be tomorrow like, and what else will happen to us.

Hence man should not cast off the thing that sweetens our speech, by means of which at least , we can express our sympathy with anyone who has fallen on evil days.

The poorman is already bewildered with difficulties, and our acrid tone is like pouring salt on his wounds by exacerbating his egony .

causing........................................ pain to an already unhappy man is bitter violence, even murder.

That is y harsh words wound the heart like stones do; they cut the heart as by a sharp sword ;

they cause pain as caused by a sharped scissors.

Now i conclude ..... Man should know that is harsh tongue sows thorns for him, forginig, as it were, gallows for him . He thud cut his own throat ....... Who know which breath shall be last? THEREFORE ... ,he should take care to see that no word that he utters is bitter, sharp, caustic or something more than flesh and blood can bear..........

The Tongue makes all this vast difference

"The tongue that enthrones one man may send another to the scaffold"
(my father used to say.......)

I read one article from the hindi news paper danik bhaskar( well my grand ma force me to read the hindi news paper to improve my hindi).. it was very inspiring... so i convert thehindi to english

here i go...

Every living being has what is called... tongue which is as the saying goes ,among human beings,"a three-and-a-half inches long thing"!!! certainly , it ia elastic tp a degree; it can be turned any way you like. But what marks one person from another is the way it is used . There are some in whose speech there are straight forwardness, sweetness and sincerity. their speech is so charming that one would never tire of hearing them speak. What they say is full of affection and good, and this expresses their wisdom and greatness. everyone wishes the rule of person like these establishment here.Are they not truly enthroned in the hearts of all people?

On the other hand, there are those who are harsh. Neither sweetness nor love is to be seen in their speech nor any desire for others' ..... welfare, nor wisdom. That is why they are not liked . there are some others who incite people to burn shops and government offices, break window planes of the buses , and so on and so forth!!!!!! And do you know what people in general think of them?

they deserve to be hanged at the nearest pole. We thus see how this very small thing, the tongue, is emplyed in several different kinds of ways and with different results.

So i hope to control my tongue while speaking rubbish..... i am working on it as new year resolution!!!

A list of 51 different things that girls wish guys knew

1. When you see a girl with huge knockers, do not go "Damn!" and then laugh appreciatively to yourself - we can hear you.

2. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.

3. If you don't act like soap-opera guys, don't expect us to dress like Victoria Secret models.

4. Mark anniversaries on a calendar.

5. There is no such thing as too much spooning.

6. Just because you L the C doesn't mean we have to S the D.

7. This is how we see it . . . Don't call = Don't Care.

8. Which also means that if we don't call, take the hint.

9. We like you to be a little jealous . . . but overly possessive is not necessary.

10. Putting things in our butt does not turn us on.

11. Return favors: we massage, you massage; we shave, you shave (and not just your face).

12. Foreplay is not an option . . . its a prerequisite.

13. We're allowed to be late . . . you are not.

14. Eye contact is key.

15. Don't take longer to get ready than we do.

16. Laugh at our jokes.

17. Three words . . . honesty, honesty, honesty.

18. Girls can be groupies. Guy groupies are stalkers.

19. We never have to wonder if your orgasm was real.

20. Do not start with us. You will not win... not kidding .. we ALWAYS win

21. Would you like it if a guy treated your sister that way? We didn't think so.

22. If you ask nicely, we usually answer the same way.

23. We will never have enough clothes or shoes! Ever!

24. We have an excuse to act bitchy at least once a month. Come on guys...most of you have more PMS then us girls..

25. Open the door for us no matter where we are . . . even at our house and getting into the car. I know it seems like a lot but is it that hard?

26. We love surprises!

27. We liked to be kissed softly, not with an iron tongue.

28.Pay attention to the little things we do, because they mean the most.

29. Boxers and maybe boxer briefs sometiems . . . NEVER whitey-tighties, NEVER!

30. Clean your room before we come over.

31. Always brush your teeth before you see us . . . a fresh mouth and white teeth are a necessity plus we do the same for you.

32. When we use our teeth it means that you suck at going down on us, so we are just returning the favor.

33. Even though you are sometimes insensitive and hurt us, we still love you with everything we are.

34. Sometimes even when you think we hate you, we don't, we just want you to apologize so we can be allowed to love you again

35. Don't act hard around your friends because I won't make you hard tonight. AKA don't be an ass

36. Sometimes "NO!" really means "NO!"

37. "Wife Beaters" are not an adequate form of fashion.

38. If we wanted to be on video tape, we'd be a porn star not your girlfriend.

39. Sensitive guys are great . . . but crying more than we do in a movie just isn't right.

40. Don't let ex-girlfriends cause drama, relationships are stressful enough!!!!!

41. It takes a special kind of stupid to forget birthdays.

42. Guys who are good cuddlers = guys who know how to satisfy a woman.

43. "Fat Chicks" have feelings too--all chicks have feelings.

44. Silent treatment + shoulder shrugs + tears + yelling + nasty looks = YOU DID SOMETHING WRONG!

45. If you are not a good dancer, please be self-aware.

46. Just because a girl doesn't pick up on the first ring doesn't mean she's not waiting by the phone.

47. You don't have to spend a lot, if it means a lot.

48. Don't say you love me if you don't mean it.

49. Don't lie to us . . . we will catch you...eventually we always catch you.

50. When the girls get together, we talk about EVERYTHING. Meaning my best friends knows everything about you.

51. Don't Make Promises You Can't Keep
(Thanks to Katie Brown, good idea to add this one.)

#52 - Don't tell your girl "I saw "this thing" that you would have loved and I was going to buy it for you..." or " I was going to buy you "fill in the blank"... but then didn't for whatever reason. If you didn't buy it we don't want to hear about it, all that does is create disppointment. Either buy it or shut up about it.

53. A quote from Sex and the City submitted by Molly
Adam: Well then c'mon....give me a BJ. Up and down a couple of times; you're done....its easy!!

Samantha: Easy? You men have no idea what we're dealing with down there; Teeth placement and jaw stress and suction and gag reflex and all the while bopping up and down, moaning, and trying to breathe through our noses. Easy? Honey....they dont call it a job for nothing!!

SO TRUE!!!!

check out- 3 idiots

Well... the word check out in my dictionary means .. checking out boys, yup!!.. . I am a girl with beautiful face, looks... with no boyfriends.... this word doesn't phrase me that i m a horny , but it reveal in my sense- a little fun!!!... In 1st year of my college, everyone was surprised y i m not having any boyfriend... com on people , if u r sexy, doesn't mean that u must be having a boyfriend .. ya i feel a little shame ... but doesn't let anybody to know that i desperately want to have.But i come up with one shot and his name was a cute Senior, after 3 month revolving around him... i went with lots of boost up to ask him out(because i know that guy wont ask me out).. huh!! u wont imagine that was my horrible day or i can say horrible crush!!!.earthquake... as when i said him hi!!!. he reply me in feminine voice... gosh i cannot stand him... but don't worry that fantasy crush went into a dustbin...after a year break, to get some spicy in my life..me and my 2 friends (3 idiots!!!)... every night start doing check out.... that guy was from MBA... cute, shy.. and one thing imp, his voice is manly!!!!!!...20 day!!!! we revolve around him.. not that we want him as a boyfriend .. but just to have little fun...that guy also know us...and he is doing the same procedure what we perform... and later that crush die.. and we come up with something else..... dis check out procedure goes on n on.... but one thing i should mention... now i m not desperate to have bf because i come up with a theory , if u r not stable in your life.. u have no rules to make bf.... as u have lot to achieve.. lot to gain... don't bury complication in your life.... u have long run.... and" i m better off single"